Never EVER Talk Bad Of Your Husband To Anyone…Learn!!!

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Wow! This is a MUST read story guys! Came across this piece online and not sure who wrote it, but it’s a great story with a solid lesson to teach and a reminder to every woman. Please continue reading and don’t forget to share…..someone out there might need this!

“Biyi hasn’t worked for that long?” Dayo’s voice drips with resentment. “For real?” “He’s been trying,” I say in feeble attempt to defend my husband. “You know how the economy is.”

…My husband and I had vowed never to bring in a third party into our relationship but with a bank account screaming for revival, I need to share my burden with someone else. I grip the phone. Dayo is unusually quiet. “You still there?” I ask. “Hello?” “I am here,” she says. “I just didn’t know things were this bad. And all this while, I thought Biyi was providing for the home.” But he is, I argue silently. Well, maybe not financially for now, but in every way else, Biyi is a rock. “It’s not that bad.” My words sound frail. Dayo clucks her tongue. “You might as well be a widow.”
The words hit me like a fist. “Na you I blame,” she continues, oblivious to the damage her words have caused.

“Me? Why?” She is blaming me for this? Seriously?
“Why do you keep paying the bills?”
“Because there is no one else to do it,” I protest, upset.
“For real? He drives your car too?”
“He needs it,” I mutter. “To attend job interviews and stuff. He gets back late sometimes.”
“How late are you talking?
“Nine, ten…ish.”

Dayo pauses for a second. “I hate to say this gurl, but your husband spending your money on another woman.” Whoa! Hang on. Where did that come from? “Haba, Dayo. Biyi would never—” “Look, I know men,” she slices in. “You are his moneybag and he will take you for a ride as long as it takes. Where is your dignity, gurl?” Ride. Dignity. Moneybag. Ouch. “But he’s a good guy,” I manage. Can my husband be using me? It had never crossed my mind in the past, but I now wonder if Biyi is actually having an affair.

“I trust my wonderful Dennis…,” Dayo is saying. I barely listen. My eyes are on the clock. It’s almost midnight and Biyi isn’t home. I force myself to hear what Dayo is saying about Dennis Ono, her multimillionaire-oil- company-golden-husband. Gosh I envy her life, her perfect marriage. “My marriage is wonderful,” Dayo says, as if in affirmation to my undeclared words. “But only because I show Dennis who the boss is. He cannot try nonsense with me. Abi, you think it’s easy to get ten thousand pounds a month as pocket money?” She really gets ten grand a month? That’s like, my entire annual salary in my crappy job plus bonuses. Life is unfair. Honestly. “I am Biyi’s wife,” I say. “I cannot just desert him.” Or can I? At this rate… “In that case,” there is an edge to her voice now, “give him an ultimatum. He gets a job in two weeks or you are out of that marriage.”

“I—”
“Look, I know his type,” she says with conviction. “He conveniently won’t get a job as long as you keep dishing out your money.”
“But—”
“Starve him,” she adds. “No sex. Make life hell. You are not an ATM machine.”

Keys jangle in the hallway. Biyi is home. “Talk later,” I say to Dayo. “He’s back.” “Stand your ground,” Dayo whispers menacingly. “Ultimatum. Two weeks.” I hang up with a sigh. My husband is leaning against the door frame. For a second my heart falters. He looks tired, drawn. But Dayo’s words punctuate my compassion. “Where have you been?” Biyi gives me a side smile. “No hug?” I jerk my head at the wall clock.” Its midnight.” “I had a job interview in Birmingham,” he says. “I called you tell you I was stuck in traffic but I kept getting your voicemail. What’s wrong?” I cock my head. Is that a whiff of female perfume? It is. Dayo is right. He has been with another woman. With my car. Spending my money. My head spins. “Biyi,” I glare at him, “Where are you coming from?” He steps back, surprised. “I went to Birmingham—”
“Did you get it?” I screech. “The job?”
Biyi shakes his head. “I didn’t—”
This is the last straw. I wrench my hand out. “My car keys.”
He gives me a hard level stare. “What is wrong with you, Toni? Did I offend you?”
“Pass my keys!”

He thrusts the car keys to into my palm. I push past him, grab my duffel bag and stuff my overnight things into it. I know I am acting crazy but I have to show him that I would not be taken for a ride. That I am not a moneybag. That I have dignity. I zip the bag up and spin around. My husband is staring at me. “Is everything all right with you, sweetheart?”
“Get out of my way.”
“Where are you going with that bag?”
“I need to clear my head.” I am still yelling.
“Can we talk first?” Biyi suggests.
“I don’t want to talk. Get out of my way.”
He moves out of my path. I swipe a hand across my face, smearing my cheeks with mascara. “Don’t look for me. I will be back when my head clears.” I rush out of the house, jump into my car. My rage doubles as the feminine scent permeates the car. He has been with a woman in my car. I feel like an idiot.

* * *

I pull up in front of Dayo’s mansion. Her husband’s Porsche is in the driveway, and the porch lights illuminate my dreary form as I reach the door. I ball my fists to knock, but a scream freezes the motion.
“Kill me!” I hear Dayo scream. “Good for nothing idiot. Womaniser of the century!” Whoa. Momentarily, I am unable to move. My hand hovers in the air. Dull thuds, muffled screams. Dennis curses. “I warned you never to serve me stew that is not freshly cooked!” “Am I your slave?” Dayo yells back. “If you want fresh stew, get your PA to cook it for you. Or you think I don’t know about her? You think…”
Dayo’s words are silenced by another thump. My hands fall to my side as a flurry of blows stifle her cries. I want call the police, do something…anything. But I cannot move. And so I shut my eyes tight and listen as my friend is pummelled by her husband. The beating stops. I should dash to my car, but something holds me back. “I am sorry I got you upset darling,” Dayo finally says. Her voice is laced with pain. “It is my fault. I should have cooked for you. I…Toni wouldn’t let me get off the phone…its her fault.”
“Next time you talk to me like that, I will tattoo a punch on your forehead,” Dennis growls. “Get into the kitchen and make me fresh stew. And do something about that leech you call a friend.”
That is enough for me. I sprint back to my car and drive home.

* * *
A knock sounds on the window. Biyi. I wind down and he gives me a smile. “Head clear now?” he asks. “Leave me alone,” I mutter. Dayo’s wonderful Denis beats her up? And she never mentioned?
“I will leave you alone in two seconds,” Biyi says. There is a twinkle in his eyes. “But first, get out of the car.” I oblige, grudgingly. “What?” He reaches under the car seat and pulls out a small basket. “I didn’t come home straight from the interview. I stopped over at the Perfume shop to get you this.” He hands the basket over. Inside is a range of exotic feminine perfumes and a small card. I pull the card open, read the words: “Thank you for your support during the hardest times of my life! I love you.”

“That’s why I was late,” he explains as he pulls me into a warm embrace. “You have been so good to me, Toni. I couldn’t have asked for a better wife.” I can’t reply. My throat is lumpy.
“When you left the house to clear your head, I got a call back from the recruiter,” he says with a beam. “God answers prayers, babe. I got the job. It’s a package you won’t believe. Let’s go in. I’ll tuck you into bed and you can tell me what’s bothering you?”

* * *
I awaken to a text message from Dayo. “Denis is flying me to Seychelles this weekend. This is what you get when you stand your ground. You have to be a no nonsense gurl! Don’t you just love my life? Ciao sweetheart xxx.”

I type a quick response back: “Ciao! and i deleted her number right away.

Now, this is one story every woman should read. The grass is never greener on the other side, best believe that. No matter how good a friend’s marriage it, NEVER EVER compare with yours. It’s DEADLY and could cost you so much!

by Abimbola Dare

545 thoughts on “Never EVER Talk Bad Of Your Husband To Anyone…Learn!!!

  1. This story is a must read for all women! D point is let’s stop runnin our mouths all in d name of gist. Whateva happens in our homes should stay in our homes!

    • We shd knw dat marriage is not always d same there is no room for comparism or similarities d determination is making it work despite all odds not survival of d fittest thks for sharing

    • If your life is threatened, you should tell someone. (the authorities) There is no need to stay in a marriage if the two people are not on the same page and the respect and loyalty are being abused.

      • Great response! The old philosophy “what happens in the home stays in the home.” is not always appropriate. It would only be true so long as what goes on in the home is not physically, mentally, or emotionally abusive. Once circumstances reach or surpasses the level of abuse, it’s time to tell and get help regardless of gender!!!

      • Same page or not. Respect and loyalty is reciprocal. Pls read 1Corinthian13 in amplified version. It’s clearer than the KJV version. The marriage covenant is not to be disposed because its going rough in a particular season. Remember that God is your source for everything not your spouse. He or she that put his/her trust in any human is doomed. Trust God always for everything and He will not disappoint you. Your spouse is human and so so imperfect just like you are. Perhaps you have judged yourself all righteous. You ain’t and so you just may nd to remove the plank in your eye before helping someone with the stick in theirs. Shalom.

    • This a perfect story of how stupid women are…what job interview end at midnight or 10 pm? Ya struggling with the bill and he spending money ya ain’t got on perfume ya don’t need with the bill money …for real! Both of these women are in have serious issues…one don’t have no skills and she love a life she can I’ll afford so she takes any ass whipping. The other is too stupid to realize that May is using her man is playin at something and looking for a job ain’t it. Her friend told the heffa right…a real friend would had knock the hell to of that door while call the cops

      • You don’t know where he’s traveling from to Birmingham so you cant automatically assume he’s lying and not really looking for work and how do you explain the job offer then. Sounds like you are the only are the one with serious issues here . . . .

      • There is a high probability that this story could be true. I remember about four years ago I had an interview that was about 2 hours away. The truth in all this is that there should never be a third in your relationship. Most women want to hear your problem to makes their’s seem small. Women open your eyes ‘ Not all men are cheating pigs’. Don’t miss out on the good for a moment of insecurity.

      • Do you not know about some interviews called assessment day but some multinationals? they take the entire day and its a series of exams interviews etc????/

      • so true, the entire story is demeaning to women. One woman is living in denial. She does not wish to ‘TALK BAD’ about her abusive husband, so she fabricates fantasy stories to another who is footing the bills of the home while her dumbass husband spends money that he did not work for. I do not care if the gift was for her, as far as I understand, she indirectly bought the gift for herself. Women do need to speak out when they are abused or being taken for granted by their spouse. What sense does it make smiling on the outside and grieving on the inside. This is not seen as ‘Talk bad’. The lesson I have received from this story is ‘Know who your friends are’. I do not see friendship in the two women’s relationship….One is advising the other in the wrong when she herself needs help, the other witnessed her friend being abused and walked away. I guess it is a man who wrote this story, some of the like to think themselves as victims. Get your act together and man up. Too many times it is the women who have to shoulder all the responsibilities at home while you men hide behind the scenes.

      • So he came home around midnight…….. that was when he got the call from the recruiters. MIDNIGHT?? Something is not right with this story I agree. However, I get the point of the story. Same ole story of grass is not greener….. Next time, the writer shld think the story through properly. He/ she had something there but the inconsistencies makes a reader lose interest. BTW Laveau, it’s silly to categorize women like that. The writer just didn’t do a good job at convincing u

      • It is so apparent that people do not know about job interviews and recruitment and training that goes on for the entire day….Obviously, this story happened in England and it doesn’t tell how fat the man lived away from Birmingham but based on the tone, it’s safe to conclude that it may be quite some distance. This story is no way degrading to women as this is indeed how things are in reality. So why the snotty remarks? There is a lesson to be learnt. Besides, who said it was a real story? Sheesh you people and your narrow way of thinking….#sad

    • Loool Devan you need to go back to Kindergarten and learn how to spell ‘kindergartners’. Learn how to not criticise. No one is perfect bro

  2. This is truly educating..
    What if the other friend actually wants her man? She would have been the biggest loser..
    Friends are best had at a distance when it comes to marital issues..
    Thanks for sharing. God bless you real good!

      • I agree 110% love the story soooo very true. This kind of stuff happens almost every day. The motto of this story to me is taking time to LEARN and KNOW your husband!! So don’t matter what one might say you will never be move or shaken.. Likewise as to your so called friends!!
        Thanks for sharing Blessings to you and your family ALWAYS0:))

  3. I am so touched by this story. My number one teacher and mentor, a professor of 4 specialties in surgery would always advice women to find ways of contributing to the society. Women who are busy don’t have time for unhealthy competition. No one will live ur life, everyone has somethng good about herself. So if u take bad advice, u’ll lose the lil good you’ve got n ur adviser loses nothng at all. Thank u for dis story, its an eye opener. I’m so sharing it. As long as ur man is hardworking and responsible, stick to him n make ur own money too, no law says d man must be d richer one or d first to attain wealth.

  4. This doesn’t just apply to husbands (marriages) should apply to boyfriends (relationships) as well.
    Good piece, every woman should read and learn from this.

    • Thks for sharing, very educative story,this is indeed a big lesson for women, marrital issues should be kept private, cos their is no perfect marriage anywhere we must learn to be tolerant and look @ D̶̲̥̅̊ + side of our marriage rather than dwelling o. D̶̲̥̅̊ – ones.

      • I disagree with the fact that this story hits the women the hardest. An honest man who is desperately in search of a job to support his family is having his wife’s friend tell her “make believe” tales which could have devastated their marriage and the lives of their children, and you think only the woman is affected by this?

  5. Okay sisters i get it… but what if its true that he is actually using her and really carrying other women in Toni’s car what should she do? I believe in planning and growing together even if its Toni’s money, but what if her friend was right?

    • Juliet, if truly the guy ȋ̝̊̅§ using her, she ll know with time. There ȋ̝̊̅§ nothing hidden under the sun. Then she ll know that God really want her τ̅☺ know and it ȋ̝̊̅§ not some friends telling her a bull story like it was the case with her.

      • My dear if you are happy in your home it trully doesn’t matter who the bread winner is. Some woman stay with a man for money but unhappy others stay in poverty for the sake of love and many woman pay the bills to their lovers just to be with them.

        This is a touching story indeed, a lesson to remember always- havnt you seen he gave her a perfume that is what she smelled. And woman are too smart unless they want to ignore they know a cheating man especially if you are married so don’t put in your head what If? Think of good things what u think is who you are.

        Most of all put God first’ in every relationship.

    • That is what the enemy called “the devil’s mind” wants us to believe, so that our marriage can be destroyed. Nevertheless, our pains should be reported to the institutor poof marriage.

    • So what if she is right??Toni doesn’t get punched neither does she lie 2 portray ha marriage ‘perfect’.Shez contented in a violent-free home eventhough without a huge bank account.What u don’t know won’t n can’t kill u.If I ws d 1 4 lying against me n ur husband calling me names ‘leech’ 4 dt matter au sooo mk u my past only 4 dt reason!rubbish!!! I don’t appreciate my boyfriends having an opinion abt my frnds tlk more of name calling coz I don’t do dt 2 dm!wot guts???do u knw wot d person hs bn thru or hw n why we r frnds??u r no better so jst sit watch pray n if necessary caution.#shikenan!!!

      • Listeing †̥ gossips spoils a lot i̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ a relationship,pls let’s be wise ladies!!!

    • To Juliet. Dayo wasn’t right. She was using wot was going on in her marriage to advice her friend Toni. It was her husband who was cheating on her, so she assumed dat all men are d same. She (Dayo) pictured d picture for her friend, thinking dat her marriage was perfect. She must have been jealous of Toni.

      • Theresa, u r so right, reading it for the first time you can’t imagine how angry I felt when it turned out dayo was receiving blows from her so called gold mine, honestly I don’t wander trade places with anyone cos I have realized that a lot of women like to wear mask n when they eventually unveil u will be shocked at the battered faces, the world have changed, here in the western world I see a lot of house husbands who r raising the kids while mum is at work and they are so happy, it’s not a big deal, it’s only in Niger that we put high hurdles for ourselves to make us shine more meanwhile all may lie, a friend of mine once said she would rather cry in I limo than on the road, and I said I don’t even want to cry at all ……. I want to be happy without all this unnecessary dramas!

    • The issue is hvin a fake friend dat advices u wrongly based on assumption. But of course if u catch ur man cheating, u can do wat u think is right 4 u, but again it shldn’t be coming frm ur friend. A true friend wld pray 4 her friend if she senses anytin wrong in a friend’s marriage n not 2 advice d friend 2 leave.
      Moral of d story is, do not disclose marital problems 2 friends so dey don’t take advantage of it 2 cause more problems in ur home!!!

      • Jack, your are great.
        Why really disclose your affairs to any person???? Not all people laughing with you are happy, they are just laughing at you.

    • What if they never got married? What if their parents didnt marry and have them? Pls deal with the issue at hand. If you have a story, lets hear iy

    • I believe that he is a God fearing person, as he said that God answers prayer…A God fearing person would strive to live a godly life and as such he would know that he has a responsibility and that is to his marriage/wife/family…

  6. Woooow this is a very big lesson and am going to hold this tight and keep safe.thank u for sharing this is more like is for me cos I dnt really have patience

    • It’s good to keep things to yourself but “locking up” has its adverse effects too.
      What if what you’re slowing dying in your silence.
      In my opinion it’s more of answering the question: how genuine are your friends??
      Iron sharpeneth iron…..no man’s an island….good counsel can save a life from destruction……

    • Seek counsel from the right person. Friends and families are not all terrible but they could be too emotional and biased about your situation thereby giving you a temporary solution to a permanent problem.

  7. I suppose this is the advise given to couples wen getting married, how many assually listen to it? I am happy dat somebody has taken the pain nd time to tell us dis story, we must take it serious if we want peace nd happiness in our marriages.

  8. W̶̲̥̅̊ǎ̜t an educative piece!.Every marriage has its own UNIQUE formula and •-̶̶•̸Ϟ•̸№ third party can UNDERSTAND it.S̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴̴̴͡ ladies keep your marital issues PRIVATE cos •-̶̶•̸Ϟ•̸№ marriage ΨåS̤̈̊ made I̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ HEAVEN

    • It’s good to keep things to yourself but “locking up” has its adverse effects too.
      What if what you’re slowing dying in your silence.
      In my opinion it’s more of answering the question: how genuine are your friends??
      Iron sharpeneth iron…..no man’s an island….good counsel can save a life from destruction……

      Sent from my BlackBerry® smartphone provided by Airtel Nigeria.

      • Inyene you are so right. That ‘locking up’ is a slow killer. With time the health of the woman deteriorates and finally death n he runs off with another woman. All friends can’t be that evil, pray and PLEASE SPEAK OUT O!!! Don’t die in silence.

      • Thnk u joor, not all frnds are evil.. Most women are living in depression due to societies idea of a perfect woman, I blive this was written by a man to shut women upp! I don’t mean we shld tell the world everything but share it with som1 u trust, a sis, a mom, dad, pastor, imam etc. Don’t keep quiet oohh! Dats ‎​W̸ƕα̲̅ƭ men want., they want u to loose your voice.!

      • No real and true man wants his wife to be depressed or suffer in silence. Marriage is not for anyone who will not commit to its principles. If you are married and thinking “all husbands don’t want their wives to have an opinion” I can already tell what’s going on in your marriage. Most men love their wife’s and are overprotective to the point where the woman feels she has no significant opinion. Every marriage is unique, understand yours and enjoy it. The best timeframe to understand your marriage is “till death do you part”. If you look at your marriage and tell yourself there’s no other option but to make it work, it will work. No one is perfect, we all are imperfect so no one should feel like they are better than the other be it the man or the woman.

  9. Its a big lesson not just to the women but to every person that expose their marrage. It shows there’s a light @ d end of each tunnel

  10. Its a big lesson not just to the women but to every person that expose their marriage. It shows there’s a light @ d end of each tunnel

  11. I really learnt a lot from this. Women God alone should be our third party He is the unseen guest in our homes we should always report to him than to ordinary human that is full of deceit. If we called God in the begining of our union, then we should always trust him for the sustainance of our marriages

  12. I love this story it will teach and touch all the woman out their how to live a responsible life without telling their friends the way they live with their husband .

  13. Lovely story, thanks so much for sharing this, this message is definitly for me. As am in a similar situation. This is an eye opener . Thank you again!!

  14. No true frnd atall,dayos hubby had already turned her 2 a punchng bag,loool,and tonias marraige. Was. Much more. Beta dan hers,dayo is just a devil like a frnd!

  15. First and foremost, I must express appreciation to the author of this educative7, counselling, motivative story, and my gratitude also goes to everyone who contributed in a way or the other by publicising or reaching out to the rest of us.

    It is a great lesson for all married couple, as well as intending couple. I learnt a life time lesson from the story.

    Thank you so much. May God continually enrich your wisdom and bless you all forever more. Amen.

  16. This Is a must read experience for all married nd single ladies as it is. a God sent message to us all The adage says if there is no opening in a wall it will not b possible for a lizard to enter .Dis a big lesson 4 all females to b shared,imbibed nd kept not to b deleted frm our memories even to b shared among our chrn .Thanks 4 sharing with U ar blessed real good IJN.

  17. Friendship is a beautiful thing when u av d right friends. A problem shared is half solved- when shared with a good friend. Dayo’s attitude shld be condemned as every woman needs a good friend and needs to be one to another person! No one shld ever ‘go’ it alone. Cheers!

    • Ouch! Dis.is a must read tips of experience 4 all married nd single ladies ,an adage says if d wall is not cracked it will b unpassable 4 d lizard so dis story is a must 4 all females young nd old to b imbibed,shared even among their G/children .also we ladies shld always bridle our buccal cavity as it is in d H/Bible Prov 1:26 it is not all issues on ur family shld b discussed with d third party .Thanks 4 sharing with me nd others

  18. Am so touched by ds wonderful Story.we women just need to stop shooting oursleves nd be real.u can imagine d first time she took a wrong step it almost crashd her marriage not knowing her silly frnd is getting it worse in her home.pls more of this

  19. its really toughing story.wat if she did not walk out de door dat night, something ealse might happen.we dont need to judge by wat we’re not sure about,well am happy for her who knows maybe de friend want de man too.But wat god has joined together let no man put…?

  20. Extremely real! Believable, don’t we all love the fairy tale stories? Living happily ever after? Can they ever be real? Challenges abounds but perseverance nd keeping private gist private is key as long as no abuse or violence.

  21. Never compare ur marriage with that of others cos, as our faces differs, so our hearts and minds differs. Just be the best you can.

    • Its not just ur marriage, even ur relationship. I have a friend like that Dayo, she was always bragging abt her guy and made most ladies around ask if theirs will always be beta. The guy dumped her in mid of Jan. And got married in early Feb(less than 20 days ). The long & short belive only urself and ask God 4 guidiance.

  22. It really a lesson to so many women out there, try and keep to urself and ur family, avoid outsiders wen it come to issues concerning ur immediate family, days are full of evil.

  23. This is a real eye opener for ladies, indeed pathetic and touching story ladies out there jst need to be very careful and wisdom analytical never compare urself with others because sum friends are jst deceiver devil in human clothing who want to kill ur happiness, remember wat works for me might be disatrious to d other. Thanks to the writter a wonderful piece in deed.

  24. The story is very educative and inspiring. Albeit, the timeline is a bit preposterous. For future stories, it’d be great to make it a little but more believable.

    Dayo’s interview finished so late yet he was able to buy perfume – ok apparently at a 24 hr ASDA shop and drive down /up from Birmingham to heaven knows where.

    Biyi arrived after midnight (I jerk my head at the wall clock.” Its midnight.”); Toni goes out to Dayo’s place to clear her head. If all Toni did was listen to the fight and returned home, it shouldn’t have taken more than 2 hours. The story did not suggest that Dayo’s place was ‘very far’ from Toni’s house.
    Hopefully, Toni was not just watching Dennis beat up Dayo for more than an hour and yet she did not call the police – that’s accessory! She seems to have made a bolt for it as soon as all the blame for the fight was ascribed to her. (That is enough for me. I sprint back to my car and drive home).
    So let’s say Toni arrived home at 2.a.m. and definitely before Biyi went to bed and before a new working day started.

    I know ASDA works 24 hrs, but I don’t know any recruitment agency that delivers good news at such wee hours of the night.
    Or was the job confirmation from a call center in India?

    Anyway, point made – good story, great lessons, well done Ma’m.

    ‘Namesake’

  25. Na so life be,women must be extra careful with d kind of friend they are moving out with and careful with what they share with them.

  26. Its not just about marriage but to also put a stop to the undue pressure we women put ourselves thru.u rnt in a competition with anyone in dis life

  27. This is truly inspirational. Couldn’t stop reading till I got to the very end. It has really opened my eyes.

    God bless you for sharing.

  28. All I have to state is “Thank you for sharing”. I enjoyed the article as well as evry comment made. Every union has its own peculiar characteristics and requires unique solutions. We learn daily. May God continuue to help us develop our “senses” to observe carefully in whatever environment / situation we find ourselves, amen. Ciao!

  29. The story has lent credence to the popular saying that IF A WOMAN DOES NOT EXPERIENCE TWO HUSBANDS,SHE MIGHT NOT KNOW THE BETTER

  30. Wow! Its a story for the century for those who believe every useless conversation that could lead them to spoiling their dreams…

  31. Lovely piece. For me I have learnt a vital lesson in life. I tell myself instead of the phone I go to the throne. Why call a friend up cos something happened in your marriage. Go to God. We just at all times want somebody to feel sorry for us when the person even has greater issues. The grass is never greener on the other side. Mown and water your grass.

  32. Wow! This story is an educating and inspirational one.
    God really saved her from α double face friend….if not for the visit she made to her place, she won’t have known the truth.
    We must not get easily convinced or confused in decisions we make in life.
    What a world we αƦε in!!!
    Wow again…….

  33. True talk, Dayo is suffering from Chronic low self esteem. It is the no 1 killer and reason for comparison in our society. We are never what people see and smell, but who God made us. Thanks for such story. Send me more, this is my pin: 2349fdb5. God bless you!

  34. She almost lost her marriage and a miracle. I was moved to tears when her husband gave her the gift and added that he h’s gotten the job. I pray we do not miss out @ the verge of our breakthrough. Thanks! I was blessed by this piece. Its a must read!!!

  35. Wow; its really a hrt touching story,tanks 4 sharing am sure dat many women willl learn 4rom dis.its nt gud 2 compare urself or ur husband wit another man.

  36. this is a pices I will never forget! never bring in a third party into ur marriage no matter how hard things are going for you and your husband. Be truthful and honest to him and show him how much you love and care about his welfare and you will be surprise what you will see in return. Thanx once again for this lovely pices ABIMBOLA DARE

  37. That was a splendid one,of a truth every woman should read this so as to know dat a the down fall of a man is never the end a man.thanks for that infact I shall send to one of my friend whose wife tell every body of any little miss understanding in Their homes this is simple a must.

  38. Wow..!wow…!!wow…!!! I so much love this story of your’s,it’s really touching and educating you’ve done a great job my sister….cheers…. weldone!

  39. Sincerely, besides spiritual issues, I believe this accounts for many failed marriages. It does happen both ways, I mean that some men get to compare their homes too. May God give us the grace to understand stories like this. It’s not that they don’t come our way but many forget to apply the lessons learnt from them.

  40. Talking to someone about a situation and getting advises once in a while isn’t avoidable. It all depends on the advise that sticks.
    This isn’t a lesson meant for women alone as some men can so ‘chit chat’ about everything that happens in their life, their relationships inclusive.
    When they ‘chit chat’ so much, they tarnish the image of their spouses and even end up getting bad advises.
    Let’s all just be in check, know when to talk and what to say.

    • U are very right my dear. Most men are worst than women in dis aspect. Most of them have said a lot of unspeakable things about their spouse to their friends, and their friends will give them wrong advice that may end up distroying the peace in their homes. Most of them have distroyed the dignity of their wives and the respect their friends used to have for her. Not everything that happens in ur life that u discuss with a third party esp. Marital affairs

  41. For those of us guys out there too who don’t trust our wives/chicks/babes out of our sights, please know that if she wants she can have 10men and u want have a damn clue. So don’t mess up ur relationship with needless doubting. Let her kno u trust her, den she will give her life for u. If she is for real, u win. If she lies, u win too. Cos God must av answered a prayer you are yet to say. Bottomline, find someone u can trust, and give ur everything for her

  42. Whatever happens in our homes should be our headaches whether good or bad. My case is more terrible because I almost lost my marriage to a friend’s sister all in the name of gist but I thank Almighty Allah that I was able to restore my marriage. So women beware & desist from unneccessary talks about our husbands & homes.

  43. Good story with real learning points….the only bit I don’t get is why Biyi has to hide the perfume he bought under the car seat. Did he want to keep it there until he got a job? I don’t get it…sometimes our intended surprises can cause more harm than good.

  44. This is very sad…..I actually cried ! God bless men like Biyi…..and God punish friends like Dayo…this is a lesson to the married women out there..even though I am not married I will never ever share my marital
    secrets to someone

  45. Great piece. True lessons they teach us; the grass is never always greener on the side and a good marriage is held by a virtuous woman and a faithful man, with Love and respect. God bless the heart that shared this.

    • Ɣε̲̣̣̣̥§, U̶̲̥̅̊ я̲̣̥ write oyewole cos Ȋ̝̊̅†̥ only tru patience,love A̶̲̥̅̊₪d̶̲̥̅̊ G̶̲̥̅̊☹D̶̲̥̅̊ fearing D̶̲̥̅̊ㆠmakes c∕̴Ɩ marriage work. S̶̲̥̅̊​Ơ̴͡ let’$ just try A̶̲̥̅̊₪d̶̲̥̅̊ have ds 3 things cos Ȋ̝̊̅†̥ helps alot .⌣»̶·̵̭̌·̵̭̌✽̤̈̊Ŧђɑ̤̥̈̊п̥̥̲̣̣̣kƨ̣̣̣̇̇̇̇✽̤̈̊·̵̭̌·̵̭̌«̶⌣. Kudos for D̶̲̥̅̊ sharer of ds story. Ħεℓℓσ

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  46. I enjoyed the story. As real as day. I think the lesson is hold fast to that which you have. Compared to other’s it may be real gold. Bless u

  47. Really, an idle hand &mind is d devils workshop. Its really a big lesson. My advice to every woman is that GET URSELF BUSY doing something reasonable with ur life,no matter ur level of Education there are jobs&businesses u can do to keep ursef busy. Even if ones husband womanises,can u stop him?Only God can intervene. Get a job make ursef happy,live a Godly life&watch him crawling back to u on bended kneels.

  48. This is a story for every woman; not just any woman but ti the entire family. Marriage is not a bed of roses and it’s not what happens in your house that you would let people know about especially your friends for they would end up giving you the wrong advice that you would end up regretting for life.

  49. This is a very emotional and touching story that call for a sober reflection not just for the ladies but guys alike. We need to learn to be unique in our own way and compare less our life with others because all that glitters is not gold.

  50. This is a very emotional and touching story that calls for a sober reflection not just for the ladies but guys alike. We need to learn to be unique in our own way and compare less our life with others because all that glitters is not gold.

  51. Wow! Dat was d bomb! Very lovely n lesson laden story, whether it’s real or not d lessons contained in there are larger than life, beautiful piece! Wonderful lessons! Though am not married yet but i can apply it to my relationship, most women just compare n pass judgement on their spouse bcos Mr X did dis or dat 4 his woman without knowing what goes on in thier closet, every woman whether married or single shuld learn to love n cherish d Man in her life based on her own “pass mark” n not wat Mrs X or Y thinks it shuld be. Good piece!

  52. Indeed a must learn ƑƠ̴͡Ʀ ladies. Nobody tells the truth anymore. Everyboy wants †ø̲̣̣ shine before others Ån̷̷̴̐ð make dem look less important. Ladies we need †ø̲̣̣ wise up. ° • · ♥·♡ τнäиκ$♥·♡ · • ° ƑƠ̴͡Ʀ sharing this

  53. Am sorry but for me dis story highlights 2 sides of d same issue. No man is an island and sometimes u definitely need to talk to someone(like Toni did). On d other hand Dayo is bottling things up and talkin ‘well’ of her hubby(like everyone is advising) and yet she’s d one in serious trouble wit a violent hubby. Pls talk with pple just be careful who.

  54. This is a gud lesson evri woman must learn there’s no marriage dat is perfect. We must learn to b understanding,patient and persevere

  55. Shocking! Goose bumps all ova me, irrespective of gender we all must learn from dis, ‘cos men have their own ways of ill-treating their women, yours might jst b a diff version of this story. That’s y we must love, money isn’t everything bt love is evrything, God is love. The no. one criteria in searching for spouse is love not money. Love endures, love is sweet, love pays, e was love dat made toni endured b4 dat devil of a friend came in between dem, even at dat wat Toni did dint com from within ‘cos dat soft and loving hrt for her husband was there. He loved her as wel , probably he wud hv reacted d oda side of the coin n made things worse. Advice to the ladies, dnt go after men with money, settle for the one u love n who luvs u, as no condition is permanent. Same to guys dnt look out for rich ladies, ha! U go wound o! Search for love weda rich or poor. True Love is best found wen one is nothing.

  56. This should also apply to men and friends. Don’t make people feel jealous and inferior when they open up to you, you cannot definitely know everything about their relationship. Help people to unite and to scatter. Kudos to the narrator of this piece.

  57. Dayo! I don’t even knw what to say. Mayb dayo has been envious of her friend marriage fr along n she want to destroy it. Bt thank God it has nt happn.

  58. If u can not face ur front in ur home, then u are still a gal or a boy. Marriage is not ment 4 boys and gals. Only a silly gal wud b decieved that there are soo much roses in another marriage. Once u put ur mind on ur marriage that urs is d best, it wud always b the best so no matter wat stories or deciet, u can never b moved. Hardworking gals don’t even have time to entertain such unhealthy advice from friends.

  59. Hmm! I feel like crying. I have two similar stories like this. This is even better mine was dat my friend got pregnant for him. A good lesson. Never draw friends too close τ̅☺ ur relationship.thanks for this article, its so full of lessons.

  60. A nice write up. Never give up on your man. ……….they say for better for worst, in poverty and in wealth!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  61. Nice one:it serves as a lesson 2 so many.pls I have my own question 2 ask u Sir:hw do I send it across don’t want it 2 b exposed. Tks

  62. Your marriage issues must be kept private, friends can never be
    Trusted, if you must talk to someone talk to a chancellor not a
    Friend.

  63. Really touching, I think is better to keep our marital home to our self than sharing it with friend ₪☺ matter the situation we might be going through… I really gain from it

  64. This is a lesson for all. Marriage is not a bed of roses neither is it a bed full of thorns. Whatever happens, know that your marriage could be better than your adviser’s. Let God be your counsellor. Thanks for sharing and God bless our marriages, Amen.

  65. Yes o I agree never talk bad of ur husband no matter how bad cos d table will definately turn one day. This piece is really nice it ministered to my spirit. Tnks

  66. Very touching story but then the question is don’t men talk bad about their wives? Its a 2 way thing. And I hope both men and women learn from it. Most importantly I pray we don’t face temptations that makes us involve the 3rd party and also grace to face life’s challenges. Most esp. I pray we all marry our Friends.

  67. Really,a great lesson is learnt from this but despite all said,some ladies will still go-ahead to run their mouth all in the name of she’s my best friend…I trust her so much…Ladies in the house,always remember to trust no one but yourself nd your creator alone!!!

  68. this is what i ve always told my friends, every marriage is unique, what works for A might not work for B. Concentrate only on making your marriage better , also be a praying wife!

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  69. Thanks so much for this mind blowing piece… Its indeed a lessson for all the married folks..for me, I’ve picked already the lessons contained in this story.. Thanks so much. More!!

  70. I so much appreciate this story. This is juust to reiterate what we are told by our parents! No third party in your marriage! Ladies get this over stressed fact! God bless.

  71. Hmmmm I learnt a lesson I don’t know about other women and will use dis story to stand in all things if I get married.. Women should stop running dier mouth just becos things are little bit difficult.. This is a lesson..

  72. No body can be trusted. Tnk God that she never spoke any ill word. She only suggested to cool off. Dayo is just envying her marriage, dat despise d problem she is passing through, she is still happy with her marriage and wants to mess her up. Am also happy that she saw that Dayo had never been a friend. This is a lesson to Me and other Women who would want they marriage to prosper.

  73. Wow! This story just tot me a big lesson. I am engaged to a man whose pay check isn’t close to fantastic and my friend on the other hand has all the gift in the world from her fiance, and i always wish in my heart that my fiance can’t shower gifts on me like that too. But u know what he may not buy me all the gifts in the world, he appreciates any little thing i do for him, he loves me n is always proud of me. I think that is enough for me. Thanx to whoever wrote this story.

  74. Brilliant story…thanks to the person that sent it, but really marriage is a learning institution and we all are a work in progress…from my opinion, there is no harm in sharing your burden with another but just like a computer system you must have an anti-virus such that you will be able to decipher which advice applies to you…moreso you don’t seek counsel from whom you fancy or from any available ear rather from whom you respect and prayerfully take it to God…we will succeed!!!

  75. Dis is an eye opener to nd a lesson to all women who are married. Never let a third party to come in btw u nd ur man. No matter wot it is, its best u confide weneva he goes wrong nd i believe he will undastand u. Always believe i Bn him nd pray 4 ur family. Thanks 4 sharing dis.

  76. am short of words,it a must read 4 evry home & not just d wife but d couples.like .some women ruins oder home bcos ders is worse.like my mother always say patient 1 laugh last(rojor. Re. Folorun)meaning pour ur heart to God only.God bless d writer of inspirational story,may u never encounter a broken home Amen.

  77. Good story, good lesson to be learnt. I’ve always said that women that go overboard trying to let you know how good their husband is, are hiding something. Okay, so while we are at it, can we have a similar story for the guys too?

  78. This is really an eye opener, my husband and I are not best of friends right now because we allowed a third party in to our marriage and it is so bad that we don’t call each other for weeks and when we talk, we end up with quarell. I don’t know how to win him back. Please advice me.

    • Hey,I wanna talk to u,but bfr I can say anythin,did he cheat on u or did u,on him,cos dat one is a diff kettle of fish.from small enemies,its easy to become bigger enemies,in a place wher luv once grew,buh if atleast one person is willing to have things change,den tins can still b saved

  79. Whoa, what the heck? This mind buggling and touching, expecially to Nigerian impatient partners that are always copy copying… God help us!

  80. ђ†‎​ A̶̲̥̅̊ touching story..not all dat glitters are gold be careful ladies so u won’t loose U̶̲̥̅̊я most precious asset in life

  81. This is really enlightening.A must 4 every women.There re times in marriage we see light nd other way round it becomes so dark that we think it never gonna be bright again but with a heart full of love,trust,passion,commitment,we make strong the home again.Love dis story so much….I hate to keep friends tho cos 5percent of tyem help your situation.They make one go astray…..Ladies marriage is 4 TWO alone nd no third party shuld be included.

  82. This story is waaooww! Can’t even express how I feel about it, please let’s pass this across to all women, either married or single, A lot of lessons in this story,I love this,kudos to the writter!

  83. Don’t ever compare your husband or marriage with anyone. Sometimes, to ease a heavy heart,one might need to talk a friend;but it is not compulsory one should take to their advice.

  84. One man’s meat is another man’s poison! Ladies/women really needs 2 be smart n calculative cos wat works 4 one family/couple will neva work 4 anoda. .

  85. D̶̲̥̅̊ợ̣̣̝̇̇̇υ̲̣̥ß̍̍̊я̩̥̊ά̲̣̥ J̶̲̥̅̊ợ̣̣̇̇̇ƨ̣̣̣̇̇̇̇н̣̣̣̝̇̇̇μ̥α̇̇̇-O̲̣̣̥g̶̲̥̅̊o̲̣̥ι̥ά̲̣̥

    Wow nice one, may God help us.

  86. Ǻ♏ S̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴͡ touched with this story. I ve really learnt from this. This ï§ indeed a big lesson †̥ every married woman. You alone can make your home no1 else can ​D̶̲̥̅̊☺ it for you. Its a lesson †̥ βε̲̣ learnt a most read.

  87. Wa ho! Is really a good lesson for us all. I think is not for the married alone but for those singles in a serious relationship, you don’t just believe what ever people say because most time they say things that suit them and also it can be applied to every aspect of our lives. I say no one else life is matter than your God given life for we all are made unique. Thank you n God bless

  88. Even if the going is rough with your spouse talk to God and not man cos they mislead. Be yourself in your marriage and not somebody else.

  89. Marriage is an institution on its own,nobody is prefect,am still learning and hv learnt from this story. Thanks a lot

  90. Dat Ȋ̝̊̅§ S̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴̴̴͡ interesting,Ȋ̝̊̅†̥ Ȋ̝̊̅§ α̲̅ lesson dat says Ȋ̝̊̅†̥ Ȋ̝̊̅§ Ǥõõϑ‎​ to Βﻉ patient & Βﻉ ☺ƒ help to one another. Thanks f☺я̩̥̊ the write-up

  91. This is a great lesson for both partner esp d women. Don’t share u marital issues with friend, cos dia is no marriage without its own challenge(s). Everyone is jst managing his/her own. Each partner must knw dat marriage is a Responsibility. And Responsibility is a combinatn of two words; “Response and Ability”mp.

    • Dly on December 5, 2012 at 11:40 am
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      This is lesson for those who havent learnt. I learnt mine in a hard way and d downside was she was my friend of 23yrs n helped me out of my husband’s house, unknowingly to me wanted to sleep with him and have all i had. She was married with a boy and girl and husband doing well-so u c, envy is just deeply rooted in so called friends. Thank d lord for my husband as he thot even if she was my friend she shldnt be coming to him with all d nonsense and he set a trap for her and he caughther red handed. She was shamed and the fracas came to an end and i went back to my home. Lesson? A woman cannot be an island but just choose acquintances and keep ur gob shut and do not discuss what ur husband dis, bot for u or d kids and all, no kori kosun friend, if she cannot sleep let her take valium, it will help. I can write a book on friends and i can smell one from 500 miles away from me. You need a lot patience, respect for ur husband, wisdom to deal with in laws and husbands friends and all. Most importantly is to learn what u are good at doing alone and on ur own and enjoy ur company and d kids if any. Being a wife is a 150% job once u have said i do and believe me, if u have patience and treat ur husband like the god after the God u serve, u will send me a prayer. I have learnt and i hope that my story will encourage some. Feel free to ask for more advice, i tell u, i have seen a lot in my 14yrs of mrg and sometimes others say am stupid, but am not, i get a lot done and have more to show than a lot of us women. Perseverance, steadfastness, been dia and respectable and u will nearly win t all. God bless and let us be prayerful as well.
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  92. This is lesson for those who havent learnt. I learnt mine in a hard way and d downside was she was my friend of 23yrs n helped me out of my husband’s house, unknowingly to me wanted to sleep with him and have all i had. She was married with a boy and girl and husband doing well-so u c, envy is just deeply rooted in so called friends. Thank d lord for my husband as he thot even if she was my friend she shldnt be coming to him with all d nonsense and he set a trap for her and he caughther red handed. She was shamed and the fracas came to an end and i went back to my home. Lesson? A woman cannot be an island but just choose acquintances and keep ur gob shut and do not discuss what ur husband dis, bot for u or d kids and all, no kori kosun friend, if she cannot sleep let her take valium, it will help. I can write a book on friends and i can smell one from 500 miles away from me. You need a lot patience, respect for ur husband, wisdom to deal with in laws and husbands friends and all. Most importantly is to learn what u are good at doing alone and on ur own and enjoy ur company and d kids if any. Being a wife is a 150% job once u have said i do and believe me, if u have patience and treat ur husband like the god after the God u serve, u will send me a prayer. I have learnt and i hope that my story will encourage some. Feel free to ask for more advice, i tell u, i have seen a lot in my 14yrs of mrg and sometimes others say am stupid, but am not, i get a lot done and have more to show than a lot of us women. Perseverance, steadfastness, been dia and respectable and u will nearly win t all. God bless and let us be prayerful as well.

    • you speak like a true mother, most of our woman dont think with there brain but think with there mouth and act with what there friend told them, and never willing to find out if its true or not before they start acting funny….

  93. if you can’t tell the difference btw good advise and bad advise then i guess you will be in a whole lot of trouble! Keeping such things bottled up doesn’t help cos you will be miserable for a long time.

    There should be someone who you can talk to, a mum, aunt, uncle or dad who apply wisdom and also there is talking to your husband about your thoughts although you have to be careful about hurting his feelings because he is the liability here and like they say no condition is permanent, it might take time but things do turn around…

    What’s even weirder about the story is the husband gets home at 12 midnight the wife takes off to her friend’s house abt the same time and somehow the husband got a phone call from an agency/coy at that time? i find it rather strange!?! Even if the hubby was applying for CEO position nobody will call at that time of the night to deliver such news no matter how good he is

    So this story as much as it is “REAL” the end get k-leg and the husband going to another city for interview, unless its just the interview and not the job as well, that will be another strain on the marriage but hey what do I know?

  94. Thanx 4 Sharing. @ a point,I got tensed and revved up. This story is so so touching….. Evri woman shld have a piece. This applies 2 both Marriages *and relationships as well. Stay Busy Ladies******

  95. This is absolutely educative. This teaches our wives never to stop been supportive to their hubby and learn how to be an introverts.

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  97. Many compare their marriage with others not knowing that God can make different marriages work i̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ many different ways. Are you talking to God about that challenge?

  98. Nice story.
    Summary- have someone you&your husband are accountable to. The place of fellowship with God is not a trivial thing, it’s very important.
    Never ever compare your relationship or marriage with another’s- each one is unique.

  99. Some blood sisters I.e one’s siblings behave just like dayo. They do everything in their homes and make you feel stupid for carrying your home when things are rough for your husband. The world is full of dayos. I’ve learnt to tell my problems to God. He never condemns me.

  100. Perhaps, the ladies can learn! I just know they won’t! Awon gals ye ma bad gan, u hear them saying “I can’t date a guy without a car”. Hehehehehehehehehe! Na plane!

  101. I will say am very blessed by thie,am not married yet.but I pray God give me d very best and alway wisdom to handle it. Thanks 4 d share

  102. Wow! what a great lesson to all ladies out there. Treasure what you have, stop comparing. As we are different so is our life’s and marriages. No matter how bad it is, ask God for direction and handle your situations.

  103. Hmmmmm this is a great story, its happens for real. All marriages can not be the same. So whichever u r in be your best, be satisfied and trust in God.

  104. This is a very interesting story, every woman should lean from. Ur marage can be in probles, but wit petiece, things will get better. I love the story and thanks for sharing it to every woman.

  105. Wow! A lot of ladies, especially newly weds like me, needs lessons like this! Our tongue needs to be seriously monitored, and this goes especially to gals with loads of friends! Even if u must keep one, let it be at a distance. Thanks 4 sharing!

  106. This is really insighful !!!! Am happy I read it …. But Am sorry I still fnk some times the grass is greener on the other side. Today I place a vow to keep trying 2 be a better person and not @ the expense of he who loves me the most.
    Thank you Bimbo :)

  107. I really learnt a lot 4rm this story. Such is life. Most women are very wicked. My lesson, NEVER 2 4 ANY REASON GO 2 A FRIEND, SISTER, OR MOTHER ABT MY FAMILY DIFFRENCE.

  108. Well ds is quite a grt lessons to all dladies who blvs in sharng their private matters wit d so call friends.marriage itself is a skool.so ladies adobt dmind of studyng more experiences in ur matrimonial homes.also knw dat its nt all friends dat we term friends r virtually friends!there r envious friends.so b ware!!seal up!!

  109. Friends can never help u in any situation u get ur self into,u just need to carry on,though it is nt fair,but it will surely get better. Pls all ladies should read dis story and learn from it quick or never! Cos friends cannt help but to complicate ur problem.

  110. There are thousands of families who have seperated because of this kind of deceit by unscropulous elements. What belongs to you, pls hold it tight so that u don’t loose it. You may never get it again and your life might also not be the same again. No one is stainless. Whatever problem u have in marriage, consider it as urs and always thank God cos others are really going tru harder situations.
    Too much friends will lead your marriage into problems.

  111. It actually a story for women to read but men also need to read it.must of broken marriage is as a result of third party.i am with the idea that a marriage woman should not keep to many friends.thank God who make her to be in her friend house at the right time.this story has really thougt me much.

  112. Wud they change even after readin dis? Women re demons and has got fish brains xept for some very few like me ex girlfriend mojisola

  113. For better for worst, dats wat is involve in marraige, am so touched by dis story but all i can say is dat its an eye-opener for we ladies

  114. This is an interesting piece! I personally learnt a lot from it… I hope others will learn as well. Thanks so much for this beautiful piece, Keep writing. Cheers

  115. Such an inspiring piece! May every reeader learn a lesson as I have.. Its not just for the women; anyman who wants his marriage to work must keep his wife away from women like Dayo! “As iron sharpeneth iron, so a man sharpens d countenance of his friend”, so d bible says… Watch what U allow to sharpen U!

  116. wow! wat an educative piece. Third parties in a relatnshp isnt gud but aw geniue are ur friends anyway? u can only get d right answers by moving wit d likeminded people.

  117. Hummmmmmm,wat a touching story,I need to read over and over cus dis is happen in must marrige.God will bless u for sharing kind of story….stay bless

  118. God said women are helpmate unto the man. The bible says dat a wise woman builds her home while a foolish one uses her hsnd to scatter her home. So we ought to learn from dis wonderful story.

  119. In every marriage there will be hardship, ups and downs no matter what the finanicial state of that marrriage. People have to understand the men are not only called to provide but also have a help mate to lighten the load in the home. If the husband is not able to find a decent job to provide for his wife, she the wife should understand and learn patients in the process. Other wise it leads to future problems and more pain: which in return having the wife disclose matters of the home to family and friends who may not understand the husband struggles in finding employment. Wives also have a role and a responsibility to cover and pray for their husband as it is their duty in the home. Having a job or lack of having a job does not make the husband lazy or irresponsable. No one can predict when disaster will stike in a marriage. When it does it can be devastating! Money is not everything as somet women thick so, but love is everything. You can have all the money in the world, but have not love it profits nothing. I know this because I’m living some of this myself but is staying strong in the process.

  120. Its a wonderful story, packed with lessons for life. I’m so sharing this one. But then, if u are in an abusive marriage, u’ll understand that keeping it all locked up is toxic. As much as we want to keep our marital affairs to ourselves, it is wise to share some issues with your mom or a trustworthy family member to unburden you, when those issues become botherersome. I suffered partial stroke and some other psychosomatic illnesses @ 27, because i kept it all inside for years, hoping and praying for change. I didnt trust anyone enof to confide in. Here in 9ja ure considered a failure if u have a failed marriage. I hope y’all learn something from this.

  121. dis must be heart 2 heart story dat you don’t judge a book with it cover.the earlier we start looking inward d better for us especially d marr.once,tnk for nice story dare

  122. This is a must read. All both male and female should keep what goes on in their closet in their closet. D person whom you think you are talking to is not better than you

  123. It serves our sister right. No two marriages are the same; remember it involves two different individuals so it can also never be a perfect relationship. In all fairness, we should realise dat there are even sometimes dat we don’t understand ourselves as per actions and intents but TRUST matters a lot in a relationship. “Love and trust can win the heart of a man even most ungrateful in all its ramifications” . Gossip burns like fire and thus should be neglected

  124. This is a good word for all of the women out there to read and give it a rethink regarding their actions towards their HUBBY

  125. Do you know that before I got married in 2008, my mother told me never to tell any one how much my husband gives me for soup or food at home. Some thing happened in Ibadan some time ago. Funke and her friend tolu funke’s husband use to give her 5000naira every week u know for soup and other things, she complained to her friend tolu and tolu said ha my own husband gives me 20,000 every week for soup and other things meanwhile it was all lies this funke began to make trouble with the husband, fight today, tomorrow fight that the husband is not taking good care of her and so on, do u know that they got separated because of this not knowing that Tolu has been seeing funke’s husband, so when they separated Tolu moved in to funkes husbands house and till today they are happily married with kids. Do you see that! She made her friend leave her matrimonial home so that she could come in cos she was actually passing through hell in her own husbands house, so no matter what happens NEVER EVER discourse your home to any one but just tell it to God if you are not pleased.

  126. Nice story line: No two marriages can ever be exactly the same; no two husbands can ever have the same personalities. Hence we must never compare them with one another. Wisdom demands that we do not even discuss our stuffs with friends and families. Their ideas about how a godly marriage should be administered might be far from the way it should ordinarily be. God help us all to run our home wisely and cut every negative interferences as they appear. Amen.

  127. Der is no formular 4 marriage,anyone dat works 4 u do it and follow it well,I feel so sori 4 women dat let in 3rd party into deir homes cos der will neva suggest sometin gud 4 d betterment of ur marriage rather der wuld want 2 destroy. Let’s learn our lessons 4rm des. Is a must read 4 every woman out dey.

  128. Its very touchy. My husband’s friend once told him to stand his grand at home not to allow me to touch his phones anymore and that he doesn’t allow his wife to touch or handle his phones.
    I kept that in my mind and when I saw him, we started chatting and maybe he forgot what he told my hubby or something, he said “”my wife is happy. we are happy she can go out with phones for hours and even receive my calls”” when we got home that day I told my hubby what he said, for couple of min he was silent.
    So this testimony is applicable to both parties not woman alone. May God help us all

  129. Thanks for this piece…….it’s so educative……….Uhmm…… May God help Us. We should appreciate our husband…..no matter the situation. And God should give Us a God- fearing, faithful and a loving husband.

  130. Well looking at it Toni was at a point in her life that she needed encouragement because she has gone through a lot, I see nothing wrong in talking to a friend when u feel like giving up but the issue is who you talk to matter,a good and God fearing friend would at that time encourages her to trust God for a change of things and encourage her to keep praying for her husband and also take it upon her self to be praying for her friend and family for God’s intervention &for God to strenghthen her friend not to give up at the time of her trials. That was what Toni needed at the time of weakness but unfortunatly Dayo was not a good friend using her experience to conclude and advice her. To me don’t buckle up ur hurt or pain speak to a good friend who is God fearing and a good advicer above all let God be the one you talk to first for his help and guardiance.

    • My dear Rin, i confided in a “God fearing” friend and she attempted to break my home with unwholesome remarks but i’m not crazy, i knew what she was going thru in her own marriage so i knew she was looking for an alibi and disconnected immediately……my advice; take it to God YOURSELF…He will lighten the load so fast ur head will spin….i’ve tried it , it works….NO friend will help you….not all friends are malicious, they may actually be doing it out of love for you but d results are the same……a crack in the foundations of your marriage or complete collapse…..God help us all.

  131. Nice story! The truth is, we all know these ‘things’. jst that we tend to forget them when they are mostly needed. We are usually carried away by the ‘emotions’ of what we are going through at the moment. Therefore, we let emotions cloud our intelligence. THE GRASS WILL ALWAYS LOOK GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE……

  132. Å̶̷̩̥͡•̸Ϟ so happy dt I read D̶̲̥̅̊Ȋ̝̊̅§, I’ve alwz known it dt it’s neva gud to involve a 3rd party to ur affair Йø mata wt. Dr ȋ̝̊̅§ an igbo proverb dt says, “wen U̶̲̥̅̊’re i̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ a particular place, U̶̲̥̅̊’ll become hungry 4 were U̶̲̥̅̊’re nt” meanin U̶̲̥̅̊’re here nw bt U̶̲̥̅̊ want to be i̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ anoda place simply bcos U̶̲̥̅̊ tnk or feel dt, dt oda place ȋ̝̊̅§ beta dan were u A̶̲̥̅̊я̲̣̥ε̲̣̣̣̥. So many ppl paint dr life to ℓ☺☹k gud so dt ppl wil envy dem 4 it. A friend once told M̶̲̥̅e dt if we cld hang our problems 4 ppl to see den so many ppl wil choose to remain wit drs.

  133. Couple should learn to tend to their gardens, instead of gazing longingly at the other side. No relationship is perfect.
    Like the story portrays we should be careful who we share our problems with, for there are lots of malicous “friends” out there who envy what you have. Though there are times when some issues may seem to be a heavy burden and you just feel like sharing it with someone, At such times look up to the most High Lord and help will surely come.

    Nice write up.

  134. Waooh! This is thrilling, this is encompassing,this is eye opening,this is a must read, women should not generalize over men, knw ur man and believe him when he explains anything to you.

  135. It is wrong for a woman to talk bad abt her home,especially her husband. If at all one needs to chip in one or two views in d midst of friends. A woman requires great wisdom in doing this, one must not say anything that will make your fellow woman curse the day she met her own partner. Fingers are not equal, which explains disparity in the treatment every woman experiences in her marriage.

  136. Great! Some life-time lesson there. We must always allow God 2 speak 2 us – yes d still small voice; dat’s where wisdom comes 4rm.

  137. Hi all

    Thanks for your interesting comments. I am glad that we all learnt a thing or two from this. Thank God for the grace to learn through stories.
    Thanks to the author of this blog for sharing and for crediting my name as author at the end.
    I originally posted this on bella naija under the title of “no-nonsense wife.”
    Please Feel free to share on your blogs- as long as you include my name as the author.

    Thanks and God bless.

    P.S- for those asking, Yes, I have written a book, its titled The Small Print.

    God bless you.
    ABIMBOLA DARE
    @bimbylads

  138. Hmmmmmm! Some friends are not worth keeping ooo. So envious n wit chronic jealousy eapecially when they notice how happy n how contented u are in ur beautiful relationship. It kills them each time u SMILE. They are called “enemies of progress”. Flee from ‘em!

  139. This is a big lesson to all the ladies over there!…….. Never Ч✆u live a fake life, try an be U̶̲̥̅̊r self in any relationship Ч✆u find U̶̲̥̅̊r self J̶̲̥̅̊μ̥§τ̣̣̥ try to be real, never Ч✆u compare U̶̲̥̅̊r marriage or relationship wit dat ø̲̣̣̥Ƒ̐ U̶̲̥̅̊r friends, Ч✆u can never tell who have a G̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴͡.̮Ơ̴̴̴͡D̶̲̥̅ heart…….. Finally!! Beware ø̲̣̣̥Ƒ̐ unfriendly friends.

  140. This is really a lesson to our young ladies to do away with third party in relationship. They are most enemy to good family living. Be wise!!!!

  141. This is a great lesson for ladies who have their joy in involving third parties in relationships. They are mostly enemies to the secrete of keeping an happy family. Be careful!!!!!!

  142. This ȋ̝̊̅§ a very Gd one n so so real, Dayo ȋ̝̊̅§ actually unhappy n she wants a mate. She will really gve up all she hz 2 trade  joy n hapiness in Toni’s home,bt as she cnt(da bi mo se da), meaning b like mε̲̣̣̣̥ε̲̣̣̣̥ε̲̣̣̣̥ .
    Advice: Marriage isn’t so Rosy smtms, sincerly, bt endeavor 2 mk urslf haPpy, think of  totality of everytn,dwell on his strength n find succor in dat. ¶τ̲̅ ȋ̝̊̅§ well with our homes

  143. Great story. Real fact of life.

    Something happened to me sometime ago that made me doubt the sincerity of friends on issues. They were tearing us apart. I confided the whole thing in my Dad. He told me “try your friends and see how many wont want a piece of you”. I did.

    I told a friend that i had gone eunuch, that i couldn’t get it up again. He was sympathetic. Soon his visit to my house increased, he found reasons to call my wife often etc. I told another guy that my problem with my wife was that she sleeps around indiscriminately. He advised that i drive her away fast. Soon he started coming often too. He doesn’t just want to greet my wife from a distance but finds reason to want to hug her face to face closely.

    What they didn’t know was that i had sat down with my wife and agreed with her that we were self destructing by calling others in and that most of our advisers had motives unpalatable to our future. She was well aware of the tests. When one of the guys, “the hugger”, made verbal move, She sat him down (secretly called me and put the phone on speaker, i was silent) and made him know how foolish he was. I spoke then to his shock and thanked him for been a “good” friend. To expand his foolishness, he spread the story himself and is today ostracized by all (even by the guy who wanted to take advantage of the eunuch).

    We got our peace afterwards and we mutually appreciate each other now.

  144. There r things u need not to allow and wait for God to come down from heaven to do for u. Mariage is one institution dat God honor so much, dats y He categoricaly warned against third party. Until we apreciat dis fact, then will our mistakes b avoided. Tnx for sharing dis story, basicaly its a food for thot.

  145. Wow! That’s an intresting story. Thanks for shearing dear. It’s an eye opener to you women. Never you miss the good in the bad…

  146. This is an interesting story! A big lesson to all women, very educating. Many marriages got broken due to third parties. Thanks for sharing and God bless

  147. This is one hell of a story. It’s a lesson i won’t forget in an hurry. Although few women believe and respect their men no matter what, it is a pity many don’t respect and treat their Men pleasantly. God bless the writer.

  148. This is so cool! I love it, I love it. If I were Toni, I would tell her the that I know the truth about her and her so called perfect marriage, she just deceiving herself.

  149. Actually for ur peace of mind it is better not to doubt ur guy’s integrity- to believe without doubting is BLISS in a relationship

  150. Dis is a must read 4 all wives. highly motivational. Lesson leant is that we shd endure with our husband especially in hard times n never compare ur home with other. Everybody to its cross.

  151. This story is only an eye opener. But I cannot but
    Wonder how women reasons. Why many marriages fail today is becos ladies do not understand how a man is wired. They should all learn from Hillary Clinton who decided to understand that a man is not perfect and can never be.
    Ladies the truth is that as far as that man decide to choose you among several and you are still in his house, you are the best for him. It is when you are now fighting for what hasn’t been taken away from you he now sees you as not worthy cos if you deserve him in the first instance you need not be afraid. Another thing ladies should avoid is the mention of separation or divorce cos men cannot tolerate the idea of a woman threatening them with it. The very day u say such a thing is the day that man start looking for a replacement.
    The best virtue a woman can have is patience and the attitude of a baby. Who loves no matter what. Every man wanted a woman and not another man in his house.
    The rate of divorce has to stop, let women take back their role as peace maker and not confrontation for the sake of the children and our society at large. Thanks for reading this piece.

  152. Wow! This is really an eyeopener for women,we should keep our issues to ourselves nd never compare our marriage with any other.Thanks for sharing,

  153. Nice write up,it’s really a must lesson fr every women. We should learn how to manage our home to make it a successful marriage

  154. Wow! Dis is great! Its a must read for married couples, never compare ur husband with another. See urs as d best and believe dat God is taking u to ur next level. Women be wise! Hold ur husbands tight o!

  155. This story is as true as it can be. I’m glad I read this. Everyone knows patience is a virtue n d most imp ingredent in a marriage. As a woman its best U̶̲̥̅̊ keep ur problems n sometimes ur joy 2 urself coz people r nt 2 be trusted. This is a story we shld all learn 4rm.

  156. Great advice! No graduation in the school of marriage, men and women shld learn to resolve marital issues themselves. Wisdom is profitable to DIRECT!!

  157. YOUR STORY IS TOUCHING AND ALSO A VERY GOOD ADVICE TO WE LADIES THAT WANT TO MAINTAIN HER MARRAGE TO THE FULLEST.I LEARNT ALOT FROM UR STORY.KEEP IT UP GOD WILL BLESS U FOR THAT GOOD WORK DONE.I LOVE YOU!

  158. Whoso walketh uprightly shall be saved, but he or she that is perverse in his or her ways shall fall at once. Evil friends, wrong advice corrupt good manners, also break good home. Tanx.

  159. It was written by Abimbola Dare, her name is right at the end of the story.she also has a book titled ‘the small print’, you’all should read that too- fantastic read.
    I love this story though, good lesson.

    • Believe it. Every party in a relationship has a cross to bear, from the individual’s persceptive. Diff is, some endure and keep it concealed; some shout it from the roof tops; some simply take a walk. Now who should judge?
      You are reponsible for who you choose as friend and who’s counsel you take. Ultimately the decision is yours!

  160. Most women are fond of painting a perfect picture of themselves especially towards friends they envy! In most cases its actually the opposite and most times we are innocent and very unaware of the fact that friends like ‘dayo’ in this story was actually envious of her friends marriage!
    Obviously dayo was married to ‘money’ and not ‘love’, taking all d beatings and boasting afterwards about the spoils n treast from her husband, who cares? Who asked her for details?
    This is to inform all ladies to always be on guard against some kind of friends like “Toni” who has ALL but still craves for what Toni has, regardless of the fact that she wasn’t even as rich as such!
    We never can tell what could make others envious of us, it could be our kids, jobs, our dress sense, the way you smile wen you talk about your family or worst case scenarios “the gentle way she senses ur husbands love towards you n d gentle way he treats you”, you never can tell, be wise! No! Be very wise!!!

  161. This is a wonderful story and an eye opener to women even men, toni was carried away bcos of how Denis spend on her so call friend. Not untill she saw how her friend is living in a hell she never believe, the good thing is that never she quickly adjust and delete her friend’s. Number off her phone. We should learn to appreciate our own and beware of bad friend. Now her so call friend lied against her that she kept her on the phone for so long that is why she was unable to prepare a fresh stew for her husband my world!

  162. Thank God for saving Toni because she almost missed it and to think it was that same night her husband got the long awaited job.its really a big lesson for every woman both married and unmarried. Its always good to appreciate our present positions and hope for the best instead of comparing ourselves to our friends and contemporaries.

    • Quite a nice piece, GOD is faithful, he allows us to witness something’s juz or us to learn from it, it’s really a food for thought to all women.

  163. Ouch,the rich also cry never ever envy then cause you never know what they are passing thru. All I know is that our home lies in our hand so handle it with care. Lots of love,understanding,endurances and perseverances with God all things are possible. I mean all things not one thing but all things. Don’t discuss home affairs with men but with the king of kings

  164. Thatz y d Bible says ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father n mother ßε̲̣ joined †̥☺ his wife n τ̲̅ђey shall Bε̲̣̣̣̥CÕ̳͡Mε̲̣̣̣̥ one flesh. Unity ΐϞ marriage i̶̲̥̅s important thaz y d devil’s out like a roaring lion seeking marriages †̥☺ put asunder. Bt greater i̶̲̥̅s He that i̶̲̥̅s ΐϞ us then he that i̶̲̥̅s ΐϞ †ђξ Ψ☺Я̩̥̊LD̶̲̥̅̊. Amen. Thx for sharing

  165. wow! this is unique and ambiguous, not only a lesson to girls, ladies or wifes, it`s also a lesson to guys or husbands. we should prove ourselves beyond reasonable doubt before our wifes, by showing them true love and affection, to disannul rooms in their mind for speculations and rumors. we should stop cheating on them! supposed, the guy was in any form of infidelity outside, the woman would have had a bone to pick with him. there are guys and husbands, despite that they are the beneficiary of the woman wealth, they still cheat, let us truely love ourselves in any relationship, this is a bond to a successful marriage and relationship.

  166. On a sunday morning like this, i dont need another sermon after reading this,this applies not only to couples but in all aspect of lives.

  167. This is a highly intresting episode, with great lessons to life and very inspiring for all.

  168. thanks for the nice blog. it was very useful for me. keep sharing such ideas in the future as well. this was actually what i was looking for, and i am glad to come here!

  169. mTrue talk.a friend told me about her hubby nt caring and supportive.to my surprise I asked my hubby to help me wit my 2nd child and she quickly answered is nt his job,do it ur self.just becos her man is nt supportive she want same thing to be.I distance her frm my family and stopped calling her. Be careful and watchful about who u talk to abt ur man.d best tell God

  170. i am glad to read this post, its an interesting one. i am always searching for quality posts and articles and this is what i found here, i hope you will be adding more in future. thanks,

  171. Dis is a mindblowing story,its a great lesson for every woman and young lady like me out dere,who share der relationship wit friends and expose der husband and boyfriend lapses.

  172. Wow! Dat was a lovely story. My advice to every woman is, make d best out of ur marriage nd be d best wife ur husband will ever wish for despite all odds. No one has a perfect marriage so don’t be decieved by anyone!

  173. Awesome just awesome that’s exactly how it is be the first to tell u to leave but they’re not leaving theirs please keep me posted with more of your enlightenment reading

  174. Yes, I totally agree with the title of this article with one exception. Never talk bad about your husband unless he’s a lying, fake, cheaping, deceptive, sociopathic, inconsiderate, monster of a want to be con artist like my ex, Maurice “Hoe azz” Sims.

  175. A marriage is what you make it. You can’t compare your life to others because it may not be time for your blessings yet. The answer is not always no, but just wait and be patient for a minute.

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    • This was an eye opener for me, I have been married to the same man for 21 years and I get so fed up with him buying himself man toys and Not always taken care of whats important. But Where I messed up I started talking to girlfriends about my marriage and listening to their advice What I came to realized their marriage was more jacked up then mine, One girlfriend lost her marriage. But she was the main one saying saying Girl I don;t know How you deal with him. The truth is I am able to deal with with because of the Grace of God. Had it not been for him. That would have been an option.

  177. Marriage truly is what you make it. If you have a man that you know loves you, respect him and love him back. The bible tells us in Ephesians 5:33 that we must respect our husbands. This woman had done this unconditionally and her husband appeared faithful and she almost blew it because she opened up to another bitter/beaten woman. Open up to God when you feel discomfort in your marriage and I guarantee He will give you peace and bring you through. Trust God only with your marriage secrets.

  178. Omg. That’s a must read story. It’s wonderful I hope everyone who read it learn something about it because I learned a lot

  179. It’s amazing the things our so called friends do when they claim they helping us. Good friend’s don’t make our final decisions for us. Most times they are being abuse. The should take they don’t. Don’t make their decision for them. You have you own.

  180. Reblogged this on anyeteijen and commented:
    Whether it is in the area of communication or companionship, God intends that we honour our spouses. Comparing ourselves with others and believing false tales of grandeur can only lead to our undoing as people and the destruction of our marriage. The bible both admonishes and encourages us to hold on to what is good and shun what is evil.

  181. This was a very interesting and convicting read for me. I’m getting married in December and in counseling my pastor has helped to make me more aware about the marriage consisting of three people: God (most important), my husband, and I. I do believe that we as women have tendencies to tell our girlfriends about issues in our relationships when we should be seeking God and godly counsel. I’ve done it too many times and I’m thankful for this post. It really highlights that Christ has to be the focal point and that you can’t have a healthy marriage or feelings towards your husband when you have outsiders who compare as well as promote negative thinking. These are all tricks from the enemy to destroy what God instituted as beautiful and holy. I definitely will be sharing this with others and will be very mindful of protecting my husband and our marriage. Thank you again for sharing! God bless :)

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  183. Well, there are times one needs to share but shd ensure its someone worth confiding in.

    But, Comparism No Way! Wait until you hear/see d other person’s ish

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  185. This story speaks to women as much as it does to men. Every marriage is different and is best to live yours without comparisms. Money is important, but not everything in marriage.

  186. Nice story, but think it was made up. So the agency called the husband after midnight to let him know he got the job? Really? When one part of a story doesn’t make sense, then it affects the validity of the whole story.

    But lets pretend its true, Toni, should learn from Dayo honestly! paint your husband in the best light and resolve your issues amicably and PRIVATELY!!!

  187. Some people are so brilliant at portraying fake emotions that they can almost make you believe that they really care for you…we have to be very careful when taking advice from people we think mean well…not everyone wishes you well

  188. What a ridiculous story. Yes the moral of it is good but the narrative is stupid and so unreal that I can’t believe anyone would believe it.

  189. I urge married women to always know n trust wht there hearts desire in there marriages bt not what others have or do in there relations.

  190. I’m not very fond of the names in this story, however it sends a great message to all women. Most of us love to compare and envy the relationships of others, but a lot of the times those who seem perfect and happy on the outside have some of the ugliest relationships behind closed doors.

  191. This story has really taught me that my marital life is only about my husband and I. Friends and all others should always be left out

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  193. Good story line, I take my hat off to who ever wrote this story. Some might say grammar spelling mistakes or its a bit confusing but the truth of the matter this is what is happening in the real world we now leave in. For those who are always criticize what have you ever done to educate someone or change the world to be a better place check yourself before you judge other.

    writers keep on writing so long we can follow the story though no matter how bad the English is. Nice story whoever you are thumps UP.

  194. Interesting story, tho made up. There’s so much to learn from it. My ex wife found herself in similar situation too (real life story). We got married early. She was 28 and i was 26. The sad part of it is that she didn’t do much to protect her marriage. She was always quick to tell her friends stuffs about our marriage especially in the areas where we were having challenges. She took advice from them and acted as advised. The marriage eventually collapsed. In the end, same friend(s) were seeking to go out on a date with me.At least about 3 of them. One in particular actually called me to narrate all the negative things my ex wife said about me. The last question i asked her was “are you truthfully going to tell me what you advised your friend to do after she told you all these stuffs?” She started blabbing and I hung up the phone.

    Late last year i was chatting to my ex wife and she said she realized she shouldn’t have listened to friends. i said “yea. it’s a pity you had to learn the hard way”. By then it was already too late.

  195. this article shows you how most women think. You married your man because of money but Not because of love. both women are stupid.

  196. For a successful marriage, no comparison with others.Always be grateful ,appreciate God for who He has given U as husband or wife.Be contempted with what U have.

  197. For some people (probably a drop in the ocean) this story might be true and dare I say relevant.. but really these days its usually OK to follow your gut because some men WILL be dishonest, abusive and generally believe they can have their cake and eat it. Personal experience… If your gut tells you something is wrong, then guess what, it probably is.

    • Her gut didn’t tell her, her friend did, the story isn’t about her gut telling her something is wrong it’s about allowing persons to paint a picture in your head, seeing others life and wanting it base on appearance. But you are right but I guess the writer’s direction wasn’t of a cheating scummy husband but a envy misguided advice etc.

  198. This is probably amateur fiction (or not), but good Lord, have mercy! Best thing I’ve read today. If you’ve been there, it stings you all over as the story progresses. I know that whatever is happening in your marriage may hurt so much, you want to tell the world how much of a devil he/she is. But the truth is after all’s said and done, if you are still in the marriage, you will rue those moment when you exposed the faults and mistakes of your spouse to other people (who may be having problems much worse than you). What we need: the wisdom and grace to handle challenges without talking too much, in the name of “venting”. The regret afterwards is palpable, especially after you reconcile with your spouse and all your “advisers” see you now living happily. Neither you nor your spouse will ever be the same in their eyes, something is lost. Final Word: less is more.

  199. wow this is so true, you will find yourself being so happy with the man you love and adore but listening to people can spoil all that happiness and you will end up lonely and broken hear ted. the moral of the story is just be the best person you can be, trust yourself and your companion and believe in you relationship. if your man is cheating; you have a living GOD that see’s everything and he will not leave you in the dark.

  200. Sometimes when I read stories such as this, the comments are the worst, people auto correcting each other in a down grading manner, so what! Everyone won’t have great Grammer even with a masters degree you will make mistakes, and bashing at the writer flaws or approach at the story line is silly, it’s a story to open your eyes, maybe shine light in your owe life, some persons women or men don’t realize things like this happen so things like this sometimes help and 6 billow plus persons aren’t going to agree one book or story is perfectly written, the fact that it’s trying to up lift your your level of thought is good, it didn’t claim no one was a bitch or hoe, we go through hell in life no one of you or me have a perfect life and and you will never have it. Especially when you down grading each attempts at making life a Little better for themselves or others. Nothing is new under the sun but we act as if it is, as if we can solve any problem, Just cause u don’t smoke don’t mean it’s that easy for some else to stop, just cause you don’t get abused don’t mean every one will follow your brave foot steps.

  201. Whether the story is true or not, it does happen & there is a moral to it..a lesson displayed in a way that went completely over the heads of half the folks that commented lol…wow

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  206. I know of a lady who lost her marriage cos of this kind of senario. In fact it got so bad she would rubbish her husband in front of her staff, friends and family. A 7 years of marriage lost ! She lost everything including her 3 children! I learnt a great deal from her story!

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